I don't remember exactly when my older
son became not just sweaty and little boy smelly but actually stinky.
Maybe I noticed when he climbed into the car after school and
happened to have had P.E. that afternoon, last period. Or perhaps it
was when he and a band of boys got into the car after flag football
practice, and I could barely breathe. I think, though, that I only
realized that the kid needed to start wearing deodorant when we were
out running errands in the middle of the day, and the only activity
he'd had prior was a thumb work-out on his Gameboy. The smell was
pungent, and it wasn't lavender.
Because, really, my son was only a
little boy, and the idea that the grassy smell of boyhood was turning
into something slightly sour, not a little rank, was shocking to me.
It wasn't so much the smell but rather the sudden turn in things –
the startling fact that my son was becoming an adolescent and that it
appeared to be happening overnight. I wasn't unprepared for this
natural course of events as much as I was surprised that it was
actually going to happen. I compared it to the feeling one has
looking up into the rearview mirror of the car and seeing a deep
crevice between one's eyebrows that had not existed before that
moment.
The onset of puberty appeared to happen
just like that, in a car, running errands, one of those errands
becoming a stop at a drugstore to purchase some deodorant for the
boy. Surprisingly, telling my son that he smelled bad, which meant
that he was growing up, becoming a man, was not a sickening blow to
his self-esteem. He was still a little boy in many ways, and there
was a certain cachet to smelling bad. Really, the acquisition of the
first deodorant was something exciting – he was thrilled when I
handed it to him and told him that he should use it every day, before
putting your shirt on. It wasn't until a few years had passed and
adolescence had entered in every other way, bringing new concern for
his appearance, that wearing deodorant became a habit for him and not
something that I had to tell him to do.
My younger son turned ten in May and
just the other day, I leaned over his shoulder to help him with some
homework and had to turn my head and hold my breath. I haven't
checked in the mirror lately, but I imagine some new wrinkles have
appeared where none were yesterday, too.
In conjunction with BlogHer, I'm
writing this post to let you all know about a cool campaign that
Unilever, the leading manufacturer of deodorant and antiperspirants
and the maker of Degree® Men, Degree® Women, Degree® Girl, Dove®
and Suave® is leading called Don’t Fret The Sweat. The campaign
wants to ensure that parents and kids “remain cool, calm and
confident throughout the day.” That's why they have a Facebook page, of course, a great resource of tips, tools and real-life
stories about how parents are transitioning their tweens into
confident and self-reliant teens.
To be honest, I raised my eyebrows at
another Facebook campaign, but when I surfed around
Don't Fret The Sweat Facebook page,
I found it to be really useful. I hesitate to give products with a
lot of chemicals to my children and learned a bit about the
difference between deodorant and antiperspirants on the site, using
the Product Matchmaker. The panel of experts and community partners
answer questions and de-mystify some of the more aggravating issues
of tweendom and adolescence.
Let's face it – we contemplate our
own aging with a bit of shock and a little denial. I have found my
reactions to my own sons' aging and growing up to be a little
shocking, too. Sometimes I'm not sure that I'll know how best to
ensure that they're confident about themselves, comfortable in their
own bodies and able to deal with the stresses of adolescence. It's
nice to get a little help.
In conjunction with the Don’t Fret
The Sweat campaign, I am giving away a $100
VISA card and a Don’t Fret The Sweat gift pack. If you'd
like a chance to win, leave me a comment telling me whether you're
prepared or not for your child's adolescence. Be honest – you can
also let me know how many wrinkles you have!
There are more chances to win at BlogHer. Visit the BlogHer Prizes & Promotions section
The sweepstakes runs from October 4th through November 4th.
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d) For those with no Twitter or blog, read the official rules to learn about
an alternate form of entry.
This giveaway is open to US Residents age 18 or older
Winners will be selected via random draw, and will be notified by e-mail.
You have 72 hours to get back to me, otherwise a new winner will be
selected.
The Official Rules are available here.
There are more chances to win at BlogHer. Visit the BlogHer Prizes & Promotions section
The sweepstakes runs from October 4th through November 4th.
No duplicate comments.
You may receive (2) total entries by selecting from the following entry
methods:
a) Leave a comment in response to the sweepstakes prompt on this post
b) Tweet about this promotion and leave the URL to that tweet in a comment
on this post
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this post
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an alternate form of entry.
This giveaway is open to US Residents age 18 or older
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You have 72 hours to get back to me, otherwise a new winner will be
selected.
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ReplyDeleteI have no sons and therefore it's different but the same principles apply roughly here with daughters, Elizabeth.
ReplyDeleteI well remember my brothers though and the smell of a room filled with dirty socks and testosterone.
My adolescents are all grown up and deal with their own perspiration but did you know what during menopause YOUR OWN body odor will change? Not for the better, either.
ReplyDeleteAh lah. One more damn arrow to the heart as we age.
I remember going to pick my daughter up at a play date, she was 10, and when she came out to greet me, she hugged me...and I gagged. I was absolutely horrified that not only was the smell unmistakable, she had been running around someone else's house all afternoon, wafting it. she had not smelled of anything but little girl and soap just one day before. we bought deodorant on the way home.
ReplyDeleteas for the wrinkles, this morning i had the occasion to think, never catch sight of your lower face and neck in a rearview mirror from the backseat of a cab. nuff said.
My classroom is literally full of 10 year old puppy boys who range from slightly rank to stinky sausage. Ack.
ReplyDeleteDitto Ms. Moon's awesome comment about menopause... what's up with that? :-)
i am definitely not prepared! scg00387 at yahoo dot com
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ReplyDeleteI live in terror based on the smell of their 6 year old and under shoes alone.
ReplyDeleteI just firmly believe it is not possible for my angel to ever need deoderant. Surely mine is the child to stay cute and sweet smelling forever?
ReplyDeleteMy nine year old daughter just started using deodorant. :)
ReplyDeleteI have one 12 yr old who uses and "forgets to ust" deodarant for 1 1/2 years now and a 10 year old girl with whom I had a deodaran discussion with just last week. Memories of your own adolescence always come popping in as your kids experience their own "growing pains", no?
ReplyDeleteI don't have boys, and my daughter is grown, but I DO use Dove deodorant, and I just found a new wrinkle that I'm willing to swear was NOT there yesterday.
ReplyDeleteI'm past all that... My daughter is 23. It was a challenge for sure, yes I might have acquired a few wrinkles and gray hairs. Lol. chefl@swbell.net
ReplyDeleteMy oldest is 15 - so prepared are not... I am surviving!!
ReplyDeletei'm not looking forward to having this talk with me kids
ReplyDeletekarinaroselee at gmail dot com
i will never be prepared!
ReplyDeleteOur son hit puberty early, like a train wreck. He's pretty good about the deodorant - it's the showering every day thing we're working on now. He figures he can use the deodorant to cover the stink. I had to tell him it's not just his armpits that are leaving a scent-trail strong enough for a bloodhound to follow him from here to Nova Scotia. . . .
ReplyDeleteMy twin boys just began the need. I don't dread this so much as the day they want to start driving.
ReplyDeleteMy daughter's newfound need for deodorant was a shock to me- physically (what is that smell?) and emotionally (I'm so not ready for this).
ReplyDeleteI don't think I'm prepared! My children are 8, almost 7, and 2. I dread adolescence!
ReplyDeletemami2jcn at gmail dot com
I'm definitely dreading it- the stink and the rest of the teenage stuff! :)
ReplyDeleteI'm definitely NOT ready yet! Well, I still have a little bit time before I sweat about it. :)
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Funny how my boys always needed prompts to (please!) put on some deodorant, while my 9 y/o daughter with a developmental disability follows naturally in the footsteps of her more hygienic sisters and eagerly lifts her arms up for 'odorant after her bath. However, I can wait for the rest of the puberty stuff.
ReplyDeleteMy daughter is grown now so I survived--but honestly sometimes it was really bad--she was so rebellious and got into a lot of trouble, but for other worried moms out there she is now happily married with her own son who is probably going to give her as much back as she gave us!!
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ReplyDeleteI've never been prepared for my niece to get any older than 3. LOL She is growing up way to fast. Now, 16 and being out with friends...I worry alot. I do have some gray hairs and the start of wrinkles from worrying about my baby girl. Thanks for the chance to win!
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I have a 17 year old boy, and it can be tough at times. But, he lets in enough sweet moments to make me remember that I'm glad he is growing up and trying to fly from the nest!
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My two teens both started around 12 and they still need reminders for showers and other personal care. And my youngest (1st grade) was so sweaty at the start of the school year I think he may need to start using something earlier than his big sis and bro did. Big bro also seems to think body spray is a good substitute to real deodorant/ antiperspirant. I hope dad and I can get through to him soon. I don't know if anyone's ever really ready for these changes, but I'm proud of my kids as I watch them learn and grow.
ReplyDeleteAre you kidding? Not ready. But here it comes. :)
ReplyDeletei'm so not prepared
ReplyDeleteSo far, knock on wood, I only have a few wrinkles on my forehead. I recently had "the talk" with my two boys, ages 12 and 13. They were embarassed to talk to me about it but I let them know the importance of personal hygiene. Thanks.
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I dread that they're growing up so fast even they're still little now.
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ReplyDeleteJust talked to my 11 yr old about a stinky shirt on the floor ... She was mortified. "Mom, I don't GET b.o.!" ... Yikes :) ... I can use all te help I can get
ReplyDeleteI'm definitely not prepared!
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http://twitter.com/#!/aes529/status/124921155789398017
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I'm not prepared yet and worried for that day to come, but as of right now I'm just going to enjoy them being little.
ReplyDeleteI tweeted http://twitter.com/#!/mom22girlz/status/125473192692285440
ReplyDeleteI would dread it.
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I first noticed Gracie being stinky after a long car ride to get to her doctor appointment. We were walking in the door and I caught a whif of BO. I now apply deodorant for her every night, after her bath. She loves it, and always giggles and laughs. She's only 9, so I was in no way ready for this!
ReplyDeleteMy child's adolescence was so long ago but I remember, I sweated more then than ever before.
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Tweeted here too
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I think I have but you just never know, my kids are grown now but I still have concerns and worries the same as if they were small kids, I can say that they both matured into wonderful adults who are very clean and considerate of others, I'm sure they were influenced by me alittle, growing up I dont remember ever having to stress to them about using deodorant or showering, I think they learned by example,my husband & I are both early risers and shower soon after awaking, the kids were used our habit and pretty much have the same habit too so that has been a good thing for them.
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...and then beware they may get to a point like their big cousin nicky, where they think their man smell is part of their hippie-love unique essence, forcing others to air out their apartments after they visit.
ReplyDeleteGreat photos! I was a late bloomer myself, and didn't start getting underarm odor until about 14...lets see if I'm as lucky with my kids ;)
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Definitely not ready, but I have quite a few years to go!
ReplyDeletei am in no way prepared for adolescence...the silly stuff he does now..sometimes stops my heart and he's young
ReplyDeletenannypanpan at gmail.com
Not ready dealing with enough with twin 17 yo girls
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Not prepared! But my eldest is 2.5, so I have time. :)
ReplyDeleteI don't need the gift card, but I have to respond to the question anyway.
ReplyDeleteNo I am not ready for my sons adolescence and they are 23 and 21 years old. They get bigger, but they don't really grow up.
I'm definitely not prepared! Why can't they be our babies forever?
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Definitely not ready for my child's adolescence, but I guess it will come whether I am ready or not:)
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ReplyDeleteNo, I'm so not prepared! I just noticed the underarm smell from one of my 9 year old daughters a few weeks ago. And let me just say that I was not read for that already!
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No kids here yet, but thankfully no wrinkles either - I imagine they'll show up around the same time! Dove is my favorite for myself.
ReplyDeletemy son is growing so fast I'm not ready.
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My kids are already past adolescence thank goodness. I have a few wrinkles, and Im sure a lot more to come.
ReplyDeleteMy son is at the age where I always have to remind him to use soap and deodorant and to actually lather his hair with shampoo
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My children are now grown and I do have quite a bit of gray hair having gone through their teen years. I was not prepared for their adolescence. But with lots of communication and love we manage to get through it.
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My son is grown now and I can tell you this--I was in no way prepared for his adolescence despite the fact that I am educated to teach 6th-9th grade! As for the number of wrinkles I have wrinkles--I'm no math teacher, but I'm pretty sure there are some exponents and powers of ten involved.
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I'm not looking forward to having this talk with my kids
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Never be really ready for kids to grow up.
ReplyDeleteMy oldest granddaughter started her first period this weekend. It certainly brought back memories of my daughter´s teen years.
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I started getting smelly at 7
ReplyDeleteI am definitely not prepared:) He is seven so I hope I still have some time!
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My boys have passed through adolescence and I've survived! I wasn't looking forward to it but it was not as bad as I'd thought. Thankfully I only have minimal wrinkles from it!
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No kids. I started wearing deodorant way back in the beginnings of time.. Or at least 50 years ago.
ReplyDeleteThanks for the contest.
BTW - where were your boys in that beautiful picture with the lake & mountains in the background?
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ReplyDeletei'm not prepared and thankfully my kids are too young
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ReplyDeleteI don't have kids of my own; however, I do have plenty of wrinkles thanks to my fur babies! LOL I have especially started noticing them around my eyes and on my forehead! bleh!
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I am not prepared and it will not be much longer, I can see the attitude coming already. sweepmorey at gmail dot com
ReplyDeleteI tweeted http://twitter.com/#!/mommysdizzy/status/131869533626576897
ReplyDeleteTrying to get my teenager who is special needs to understand the importance of deodorant is difficult.
ReplyDeletei have a lot of wrinkles from my job, but i am def not prepped for my child's adolescence.
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ReplyDeleteI have too many wrinkles from the stress of life, but just starting to prepare for my daughter's changes. I'm planning on buying a whole series of books to help me talk to her and for her to read.
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Adolescence?! I'm not ready for walking yet! (she's still a crawler)
ReplyDeleteAdolescence? Been there done that and no way I want to go through it again!!
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ReplyDeleteAdolescence means they're getting older so it makes me sad.
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My boys are all grown now and it does make me sad. They were pretty easy to get through puberty. None of them ever made a big deal out of it. Now I have two little grandsons and it will be a while before we have to deal with them changing.
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I was not prepared for my oldest going to Kinder this year.I will NEVER be ready for adolescence!!
ReplyDeleteI was 12 when I first started wearing deodorant the same age as my son and daughter were when they first started wearing it too
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Not looking forward to it at all.
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I'm prepared for his adolescence, but I wish I could keep him little for a bit longer!
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http://twitter.com/#!/LuckyDuckyToo/status/132501435173715968
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NO, not from what I've heard other parents say lol. They're so quit & innocent when they're sooo young =)
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Thank goodness, my kids are grown and I have already been through this! It was certainly easier with my daughter than my son!
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I am still TTC, so no worries about adolescence for a while. I have nieces that are 10 and 14 though, so I know what I have to look forward to.
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I do not have kids but this something to think about when i do
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ReplyDeleteNo kids in our household, so we won't have those problems. But good luck to everyone else dealing with your kids!
ReplyDeleteThanks for the giveaway!
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I don't have kids yet but my BFF is a middle school teacher and she says the entire school smells terrible as parents haven't had the talk yet with their kids.
ReplyDeleteThank you for the post, it was really honest and sincere, I don't think I'll ever be prepared, they're too little and too cute right?
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My son is now past the adolescence period and we made it through just fine. I prayed for wisdom to keep our communication open so that we could talk openly about everything. I believe if a child KNOWS that a parent's love is unconditional it makes it easier..NOW FOR THE WRINKLES..1,2,3,4,5,6,..7,8,9, oh shot there's another one - 10,11,12,,,can I stop counting now? lol
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